Editing Sucks (but Marriage is Great)

I’m wedded to Words, yes I’m smitten with love

But like any such marriage, we fight

Sometimes it gets tense, and push comes to shove

As they shout, “Don’t give me your bullshit tonight!”

Of course that’s unfair, Words just don’t understand

Just like any ole husband or wife

Its worked to the bone, this here writing hand

Far too much for that “editing” life

Why can’t Words just listen, do what I say

And tidy things up on their own?

I’m only one man, and its been a long day

Must I do so much work all alone?

As carpal tunnel sets in, Words just lounge and relax

Can’t even say “Good job today, Matt”

Oh its cool Words, I got this, ya’ll just lay on your backs

Like I’m hitched to a fat fucking cat

Hell, I even invent those new friends that you like

“Words Night Out” exists ‘cause of ME

The least you could do is be more sportsmanlike

And help edit occasionally

I mean how hard can it be? Just shuffle your feet!

One step and that loose screw is tight

My spelling is solid, my grammar’s is neat

Its not like it’ll take you all night

But whatever I guess, I know they think I overbear

I truly feel marriage is great

I just get so worried they might have an affair

With that douchebag songwriter I hate

 

 

 

 

 

Love, Lost

We’ve all learned through our lives

That some things aren’t meant to last

Yet often we all look back

To our looming, lin’gring past

The good, the bad, the ugly

For better or for worse

Its always deep inside us

Both blessing and a curse

The ones we loved, we grew with

They truly held our heart

Although you’ve both moved on now

Your souls, they don’t depart

For those we love stay with us

And really never leave

Remaining deep inside us

The threads of life they weave

Oft my thoughts will wander

On times, though long ago

To ones I fiercely cared for

On times, both glee and woe

So many things I’d take back

If only life would let

If only time allowed me

So much, I still regret

And though these feelings haunt me

My heart, its stronger still

For greatness lies before us

And love, it always will

Good & Evil: Chapter 14

Well well well, what have we here? Does he love her? What do you think? She’s going to be mine. Sort of an odd term to use, right? Almost sounds like he views her as property. Property he doesn’t want to share, as it seems.

So, here’s what I wonder: does Mikal love Estella? How does he even define it? If Estella’s future was brighter, hypothetically, with someone else, shouldn’t that be a good thing? Because when you love someone, its unconditional. You want them to be happy don’t you? Or is love only present when it serves our own ends?

Its a question that could persist forever. And truthfully one for which I doubt we will ever have a really good answer. Because no one wants to admit these things, for some reason, but they’re true. I think its safe to say that Mikal is only going to “love” Estella if she loves him back. Which clearly she does, based on previous readings.

Either way, he’s a sneaky little bugger isn’t he? Manipulating the manipulators.

Good for him.

MVCs – What is the Most Valuable Characteristic You Look For?

When I was a child, I never would have thought this way – but after studying economics and corporate strategy in college, I learned that (as odd it it might sound) there are actual methods of “quantifying” human beings. That’s right –  legitimate methods exist which essentially break a person’s personality, monetary worth, and other traits down to a bulleted word document; their tangible, measurable character profile and worth if you will.

Now if you’re anything like me, your response after reading that is probably something like this: “um…what?” After all, the thought of reducing a human being down to a simple sheet of paper sounds somewhat monstrous, don’t you think? 

As time went on, however, I began to understand why these metrics exist. I’ve spoken with relationship counselors who do this to aide with matchmaking, for example. I even used these methods during my career as an insurance agent, quantifying my clients monetary worth over their lifetime to determine the amount of life insurance they need. Despite how offputting it was at first, things became clear that these analytics weren’t, in fact, a way of thinking totally devoid of personal sensitivity and compassion. 

Recently I’ve experienced significant changes in my life which have reminded me of these lessons. In my torturous attempts to move on after a breakup, for instance, I created a five page list of bullet points which helped me understand why I was struggling so badly. Eventually, going back and referencing that list helped me realize that the characteristics which I was so in love with actually exist in other people. It may not have switched off the lingering feelings which we all maintain after long relationships, but it certainly helped with the tornado making its way through my head. It was therapeutic, if I had to label the sensation. 

With so many changes in my life both personally and professionally, I’ve been thinking a lot about this method of quantifying our reality. My main curiousity lies in the characteristics that people most commonly look for in other people. 

So I’d like to propose a question:

If you had to list the top two or three traits you desire in a person, what would your answer be? Particularly when it comes to a relationship, since those tend to be our most dynamic interactions, and in my opinion surely the one that dictates the majority of our happiness. 

My answer would be this: trust, open-mindedness, and depth. Trust is an obvious one; no one likes to constantly question their companions motives or actions. Open-mindedness is vital because with my personality profile, it’s a necessity. I love to try new things, take calculated risks and enjoy a diverse, sometimes unpredictable life. Depth is perhaps the most unconventional trait of the list. To me, having substance is one of the most valuable characteristics we can display. I like people who have deeply held convictions, are good critical thinkers, and who can have solid conversation about a lot of different things. 

Undoubtedly there are many who have, and many who have not thought of their relationships in this manner. Despite the apprehension some may feel with what might seem to be a “cold” school of thought, I encourage you to give this a try. Think of what you value most in your relationships, and apply that to the ones you currently have. Are you surrounding yourself with those who truly mesh with you? You’d be amazed at how much you can learn about yourself if you just give it a shot.